Take care of you, always

When you were a little girl, your probably remember these scenarios:

1. “You need to stop being bossy to everyone” okay Larry, I’m not sorry I’m assertive and I know how I want something done.
2. “You’re being too loud, calm down” no Mildred, I will be outspoken when I feel it’s necessary.
3. “There’s no crying in baseball” well Karen, I’m crying because no one wanted to here my idea about something I’m passionate about.
4. “Beggers can’t be choosers” well Molly, I’m not a beggar, I’m decisive, I know what I want and I would settle.

Assertive | Outspoken | Passionate| Decisive

Four important words for any girl/woman to know. You will be called the alternatives that express anger and harmful energies. You are a star and you should let your magic light shine. 

Be assertive with who you choose to keep around you. If you don’t like them, whether I’d be their attitude, body language, personal experience , humor, look, let it be know. You have to yell it in front of everyone but avoid them. Don’t hang out solo, don’t go out for drinks with them, just don’t be around them. Assert your space to them and keep it moving. If the confront you, just tell them “I don’t vibe with you” and you don’t owe them an explanation.

Be outspoken about things you believe in. Anyone can follow the path paved for us but it takes a strong person to take the backroads over the interstate. Always be outspoken when you’re in an uncomfortable situation. Don’t just go with the flow, say you feel uncomfortable even if it means “killing the vibe”. Your space and comfort is your responsibility, so take it and use it. Use your voice.

Be passionate about everything that brings joy to your life. Indulge in your video games you love. Go for a drive on those backroads you enjoy so much. Dive into your own personal studies of a field you like and want to learn more about. Be the best player on your sports team. In our lives, we spend times wishing we had followed our dreams or lived our passions. JUST DO IT.

Be decisive. It is perfectly fine to take your time until you get what you want, how you want it. Don’t let people bully you into thinking you’re only valid if you get certain things by a certain age (I.e dating, marriage, kids). It’s your life to live, no one else’s. People can give you advice but don’t let them drive for you. It is not your life purpose to be the one someone else can live through.

You are important, you are so important. And loved, you are so love. You are worth taking care of. Always remember that.